Over at “A Sabbatical, of Sorts” he talks about waving or at least acknowledging other runners when they go by.
Here is a link to his post:
Wave to fellow runners « A Sabbatical, of Sorts.
You know something I agree with him. When going towards other runners and it is appropriate, I have always tended to give a little wave and a smile. I don’t do it to “come-on” to the ladies or anything else – I am simply acknowledging the existence of another runner.
If another runner is coming towards me and waves and I haven’t waved yet for some reason or other, I try to wave back or least give at least a grimace to show that I saw them wave at me.
To my way of thinking – either responding to a wave or initiating a wave – I am just being courteous to another runner.
Sometime we might even say “Hi”.
It Doesn’t Hurt
It doesn’t hurt to wave back to other runners. You are not taking any of your time or much of your energy. I can understand being “zoned out” once in a while excuse, but to purposely not acknowledge another runner’s simple act of courtesy to you when it is appropriate, with a least a little wave back, is being rude to your fellow runner.
This even goes for some of those runners who sometimes seem to be going about the same speed as a low flying plane and seem to be so focused on their form and workout that they don’t care about anything else. When those guys and gals go by I don’t expect a high-five or a knuckle-bump, but a quick wave goes a long way the first time they go by – after that I don’t expect anything.
By the way I do know you see us, I used to run with faster runners every once in a while (a long time ago) and I know what you see if you choose to. So be courteous too.
Use some common sense and the taking into account the time and place when waving, don’t expect it every circumstance.
Are there limits?
That doesn’t mean if you are across a 4 lane highway, that I will always see you and wave back or if you are in the middle of the park or on a course where there are 50 bazillion other runners that I am not going to wave to them all (example: if I am running Back Bay in Portland during the daytime I don’t bother waving at the other runners who go by, but if it was early morning I probably would).
If I was doing a technical part of a trail I probably would grunt as someone went by and if I was getting across a busy street, I would be focusing on avoiding being run over, not waving.
It also might be different if you know the person coming at you and you don’t like them, fine don’t wave back at them and keep what ever feud you have going, going.
Courtesy is Courtesy
I don’t really care if you live or run in a big city, small town or on a country lane, courtesy is courtesy and there isn’t the need to be purposely rude, especially to a fellow runner.
Decline of Manners
I am not going to get into the decline of manners, courtesy or rudeness that people have towards each other that I have seen almost every time I leave the house and go to public places. No that decline has been well documented in too many other places. Seeing that decline, it doesn’t surprise me that it is finding its way into the running world as well.
Hell when I owned my “real” Jeeps, we always waved to each other, when we passed each other on the road. I didn’t know hardly any of those other people in their Jeeps, I waved to them simply because they were driving a Jeep. I know that motorcyclist and snowmobilers do it too, so if they can do that simple act of courtesy, why can’t runners.
Take a Moment
We have a choice, we can just each go into our own little shell and not acknowledge the people around us and blithely go on our merry way down the road or maybe, just maybe take a moment of our time and wave back to someone who is only trying to acknowledge another runner.
Perhaps some of you can give me reasons why you shouldn’t wave back to another runner other than the reasons I have given. I would like to hear the reasons why you do or don’t wave to acknowledge other runners and other times it wouldn’t be appropriate to wave to other runners.
Unless someone gives me some more reasons not to wave to other runners, I do not believe it asking too much, to simply acknowledge another runner, as you go by with a simple wave or even a thumbs-up – even a little smile if you are in a good space. Hell a quick Hi if you know them a bit.